Vaporize Your Grief – Mobile

A new way to really get rid of your grief has been discovered.

Thousands of people have learned how to do this and you can too.

This app works by teaching you special techniques that are new, unique and highly effective for thoroughly resolving grief. You will guide yourself through these experiential techniques at your own pace by listening to audio instructions and tapping a button to hear the next instruction. Because the techniques are easiest to do with your eyes closed the buttons are big so you can keep your eyes closed as you tap for each next instruction.

Preparation for Using This App

A New Technology

Pretty much everyone experiences grief at some point in their life. Typically people take a long time to heal from the loss of someone they love. It can take years and some people never really get over it. But it doesn’t have to take so long or be so difficult and painful. In fact, amazingly enough, you can get over the pain of grieving a couple of hours or less. That sounds impossible based on your previous experiences and observations of people who are going through a grieving process. But the reason that it takes so long to get over it is not because that is natural. It is due to something that is very common, pretty much universal. And that is that most people are simply emotionally incompetent. This is not meant to be insulting. It’s just true that most people just aren’t good at handling their emotions.

Why is that?

The Habit of Emotional Suppression

When you were very little you got emotionally overwhelmed many, many times. And you didn’t like that. So you (and everyone else) rapidly learned how to suppress your feelings. You get so good at it that you do it automatically, without even realizing that you are doing it.

This happens to everyone. It is quite universal. And as a result, people are simply not good at handling their emotions, particularly painful ones. This sets people up for not being able to resolve such painful emotions as grief.

Read Everything

There is a lot of information below that explains about the real nature and cause of grief. And there’s a detailed description of how you can resolve it using this app. It’s a lot of information because what you need to learn is something new, something that you have almost certainly never experienced before. So please read all of the information as it will give you a very good foundation for understanding exactly what to do to prepare for and successfully use this app.

Losing a Part of Yourself

The pain of grief comes from becoming identified with the person and the life that you have been living that has included having that person you were close to who died continue to be there. This means that you have been getting part of the sense of yourself from having that person in your life. Now, all of a sudden, the person is gone. When you have been identified with having that person in your life, you can really feel like it is a part of you who has died. You miss the person certainly, but what you really miss is the life that you had assumed and expected that you would continue to have.

So the problem with grief is this sense of the loss of a part of yourself. That means the problem is caused by identification. What if it were possible to resolve the feelings associated with this disruption to your life and identity? What if the deep feelings of being shocked and hurt could be resolved both quickly and easily? Due to some new insights and discoveries, now they can be!

Feeling Whole and Complete

Most people are deeply conditioned to not feel whole and complete within themselves. They look to other people for acknowledgement, approval, acceptance, love, attention, etc. This causes you to feel that a part of the definition of who you are comes from whether you have someone or more than someone who gives you these things. This is what is meant by identification. You long to have this kind of “completing” of your sense of self. This phenomenon is represented well in expressions like “She’s my better half.” Or, “I can’t live without you.”

Resolving Your Grief

You are about to learn how to resolve the pain of your grief. This is going to take learning to do some things that are the exact opposite of what you have been doing your whole life but it turns out to be pretty easy. This pattern of conditioning keeps you locked into feeling painfully incomplete.

When we start the process of resolving your grief and you get in touch with the pain it’s very common to start to cry. We are used to crying when we are in pain. We’ve been doing it all of our life when things are really painful. But as you have probably experienced, crying doesn’t resolve the pain. You can cry many times and still feel the pain of your loss. There’s nothing really wrong with crying but it doesn’t resolve the problem.

There’s a much better way

If you understand what’s really going on then you can learn a new technique called the IN Technique and use it to resolve the pain of your grief so thoroughly that you can think of the person you’ve lost and not cry or feel any need to cry.

So a part of what I’m going to explain to you right now is how when you start the IN Technique and you start to allow yourself to feel the pain of your grief, how to shift from crying to feeling the “energy” of the emotion in this new way with the IN Technique.

It’s simple even if it is a little bit surprising what you have to do. When you start to feel the pain you allow yourself to focus your attention right into the center of the strongest area of the pain. Sounds crazy but amazingly enough, it really works.

What happens when you do that is that it creates a little bit of distance between your awareness and the pain. When you cry what happens is that you get kind of sucked into the sensation of the pain and overwhelmed by it, which is what makes you cry. But when you allow yourself to feel the most intense part of the pain, the strongest area of the sensation of the pain, which is usually right in the middle of the energy field of the sensation of the pain, then you don’t get sucked into it and overwhelmed.

Adjusting the Distance

The next thing that you do is to adjust how close to or far away from the energy field of the sensation of the pain you position your awareness to be. Most people don’t even know that doing this is possible but it’s actually pretty easy. You can get closer and further away from the pain just by adjusting this distance. So when you are getting sucked into the energy and overwhelmed by it you are too close. Back up a bit. It’s like getting into a helicopter or a hot air balloon and just going up a bit. It doesn’t take much moving away from the pain to have it stop feeling so overwhelming.

Focus on the Strongest Area

It is however, essential to keep making sure that your focus of attention continues to be right in the center of the strongest area of the sensation of the pain. If you start to feel like you are getting sucked into the pain and overwhelmed again, focus back on the center of the strongest area again and immediately you will not feel like crying. You’ll become calm.

Yes, it will feel intense. But you will rapidly see that if you create that little bit of distance by focusing on the center of the strongest area that you won’t feel like crying.

As you continue to simply notice that strongest part of the energy field of the pain the intensity level may seem to stay more or less the same for awhile. But if you just keep innocently noticing the strongest area, not trying to make the pain go away, not trying to do anything to it, eventually something very special happens. It will gradually start to soften and become less intense.

This is because what’s really going on when you are experiencing this kind of emotional pain is that when you first experienced it, it was just too much for you to process the pain in that moment. So you stored the remaining unresolved pain in your body and what’s needed now is to complete the incomplete experience that you are holding there.

Completing an incomplete emotionally painful experience is totally different than just crying again over it. It’s also totally different than trying to suppress the pain. That just keeps it. It doesn’t resolve it or complete it.

So learning the IN Technique combined with doing this preliminary process of focusing on the central strongest area of the pain and adjusting the distance of how close to or far away you are from the pain is learning a new skill. It’s learning to do the opposite of what you have been doing all of your life.

Once you get the distance right and stay focused on the central strongest area of the pain you can start the app and guide yourself through the completion of the grief. Don’t stop the process until the pain is completely gone. It might take awhile so don’t be in a rush. It might even take more than once depending on how severe the pain is. But if you stay with it or come back to it and continue until the pain is gone, the really great thing is that it doesn’t come back. When it’s gone, it’s really gone for good.

High Success Rate

I have helped many people suffering from grief and the techniques have always worked to resolve the pain no matter whether the person has just died or if it happened a long time ago.

Pretty much everyone in the world is not good at resolving emotional pain, especially the pain of losing someone you love.

People can take a long time to get over the feeling of loss. This isn’t because it is intrinsically difficult to get over the pain of the loss. It is due to people’s low levels of emotional competence. They simply don’t know how to do it and they are deeply conditioned to resist feeling things fully. So the norm is to try your best to avoid feeling the pain or to try to suppress the pain, which unfortunately just… keeps it.

People are so used to suppressing their emotional pain that they don’t realize they are doing it.

If you go by the normal observation that it does take most people a long time to get over grief it’s good to get a new perspective that it really isn’t as difficult as one would think.

Based on this background of people’s past experiences of it being difficult and taking a long time you would be making your assessment without the benefit of having a new technology for resolving emotional pain such as the IN Technique. Now with what you can learn from this app the pain of grief can often be resolved in less than an hour or two at the most. I’ve helped many people resolve their grief and it’s never taken longer than a couple of hours maximum. Sometimes it takes less than half an hour.

Have the Courage to Try It

But you do have to at least have the courage to try it and not just give up the moment that you start to get in touch with the pain because the emotional energy feels intense. There’s no question that it will feel intense. It will. But even though it will feel intense, you can quickly learn how to handle “intense.” And the way to handle it is to do exactly the same as described above for crying. When you focus on the central strongest area of the emotional pain, what you will find is that it’s just a sensation.

You may have a pretty deep habit of collapsing into crying so you might have to refocus on the central strongest area of the pain repeatedly in order to keep from collapsing back into crying. It may take a little practice to get this part.

If images or sounds or other kinds of memories from thinking about the person start to grip your attention, that’s similar to collapsing into the crying. Instead of letting that happen, you refocus your attention on the “sensation,” on the “energy” of the pain and you focus right into the center of the strongest part of it. Just like with the crying, this will help you to not get lost to the images and memories.

Support

If you try it on your own using the app and you still have any trouble with it, particularly if you are having trouble with either crying or doing something else to try to avoid having to feel the pain, you can get 1-on-1 personalized coaching through this process by booking a session with a Certified Inner Greatness Coach using the form t the bottom of this page.

We do have many highly trained and Certified Inner Greatness Coaches who are available for 1-on-1 sessions to help you. They have been doing this work already for many years and they are highly qualified to help via mobile device or Skype or similar.

The Pain Will Be Gone

Even if you have had grief for a long time you are going to be able to resolve it with this app. If you have had it for a long time then it’s a very familiar feeling. When you resolve it you are going to feel very different. The pain will be gone. You will feel a sense of lightness and freedom that you may never have felt before, even before you started grieving.

Two Kinds of Not-useful Emotions

There are two kinds of disruptive emotional energies that humans have. Grief is typically the painful/internal kind as expressed on the diagram below.

The kind of feelings that we have in grief happen because the emotional energy of the experience of this loss of the sense of your identify is just too much to process in the moment. And of course you are already good at suppressing your feelings. So you don’t complete the experience of the pain right when it happens.

You archive it. You sweep it under the rug the best that you can. But of course it doesn’t take much to draw it out and cause you to feel the incomplete pain of the loss. Just thinking about the person and the loss of them in your life usually gets you in touch with the pain immediately.

Emotions Have Both Content and Energy

The content is the part that most people and most approaches focus on. But it is the energy of the emotion that gives it life. When the energy is gone, the emotion is gone. The circumstances may still be there but the “charge” of your emotional reaction to the circumstances will be gone. It becomes neutral.

I know that it sounds too good to be true… but it is true. You don’t have to take my word for it. Just use the app, follow the instructions and see for yourself!

The app is going to show you how to resolve the kind of energy patterns that cause you to feel the pain of grief. You’re going to learn how to allow yourself to feel the energy of your old unresolved emotional pain so thoroughly, so completely that there’s nothing left to feel.

In order to do that you need to learn how to do the exact opposite of what you have been doing all of your life. You’ve been suppressing your emotional pain. You’ve been going as far away from it as possible.

Now you are going to learn how to feel that pain in a new way that is highly efficient and effective for resolving the pain without being overwhelmed by it.

And once you allow yourself to feel the emotional energy, you’ll learn how to put your attention right into the center of the most intense part of the energy field and completely resolve it.

So the solution is not to continue to try to avoid this pain but to completely resolve it.

Intellectual Understanding Isn’t Enough

Typically just having intellectual understanding about all of this will not solve the problem. That’s because it’s an experiential problem not an intellectual one. There’s an emotional charge to the grief that you haven’t fully experienced. That charge is what’s keeping the pain held inside of you. By learning a new and efficient way of completing the incomplete experience you are going to be able to vaporize your grief much more easily than you ever thought possible.

Sounds amazing but… it works! You have to experience it to believe it.

The Provocation Test

Making Sure That It Is Really Gone!

When the emotional pain is gone you can open your eyes and see how you feel. At that point it’s good to do a simple exercise to make sure that the problem is really thoroughly resolved. We call it a “provocation test.”

That means we’re going to see if it is possible to still provoke the sensation of the pain by thinking about your loss. Just think about not having that person in your life any more and see if you feel differently now.

The most common report from people when they do this is… “Wow! The pain of the grief is completely gone. All I feel is my love for the person. Amazing!”

And if when you do the provocation test you really feel that the original issue is resolved and there’s no more fear energy, it means that the “charge” that was creating the sensation of the grief has been completely resolved. You’ll be free of the pain of the grief… for good.

Again, if you find you are having any trouble with resolving your grief on your own using the app, you can get 1-on-1 personalized coaching by using our online booking system using the form at the bottom of this page.

You Are About to Start the Techniques

Here’s what you are going to do –

As mentioned above, you first have to allow yourself to feel the energy field of the emotion. Follow the suggestions below in order to be able to do that.

When you click on the START button it will change to the word PAUSE and you will hear the first audio instruction that will tell you to close your eyes. This is because these techniques are easiest to do with your eyes closed. If while the instruction is playing you need to pause it for any reason (you may rarely or never need to do that but its there just in case you do) just tap the PAUSE button and the audio will stop. It then changes to RESUME, which you can click when you are ready to start again.

The buttons are big enough that you can just keep your thumb over the button and continue clicking on it for the next instruction even with your eyes closed.

When each audio instruction has completed the button will again change back to the word NEXT. If you’d like to hear the last instruction again use the REPLAY button. And if you’d like to start over from the beginning you can use the link right under the buttons that says START OVER.

Take Your Time – Don’t Force It

Also it is important to take your time with this process. Sometimes people have a tendency to rush. They want to get it done quickly. It’s important to realize that the completion of the incomplete painful experience is just going to happen in it’s own natural timing. Although that will be much faster than you might think it could happen, you can’t rush it. Trying hard to make the feeling go away will only hold onto it. And going too fast and not really completing each step of the process will still leave some of the painful energy inside of you. So take it easy. Don’t rush it or force it. Just notice the energy and get closer to it as it gets softer. Then you will be successful at completely vaporizing your grief… for good.

Start Vaporizing Your Grief
Accessing the energy field of grief

As mentioned, in order to overcome the emotional stress of your grief you will need to use the IN technique to complete the incomplete experience of the emotional pain. Although this doesn’t sound easy or even possible, you will be surprised that when you simply notice the center of the most intense part of the energy field of the pain that you will be a little bit separate from it. This makes it not so difficult to allow yourself to feel it. Click the small menu icon on the upper right of this screen to get to the menu of the techniques.

To get access to the energy field of your grief shouldn’t be difficult for you. All you have to do is to think of the person who has died and you’ll most likely feel it. If the loss was a long time ago and you don’t think about the person so much any more you can use the LOCATE Technique explained a bit further down to get access to any residual energy that might still be there.

The IN Technique

Think about the person and see if you feel the pain. This is usually all that’s needed in order to get started.

The sensation will feel like a tightness or tension inside your body. It may feel like a painfully tight knot or ball of energy inside somewhere, often in the chest or solar plexus but it could be anywhere. This is what we call an IN Technique energy field. The pain will feel localized and concentrated. Start the IN Technique audio instructions by tapping on the START button and guide yourself through the resolution of this painful feeling.

If it has been a long time and for any reason you don’t feel the energy somewhere inside of you when you think of the person, then you can use the LOCATE Technique to help you get access to the IN Technique energy that needs to be resolved. Start the LOCATE IN Technique. It will guide you in finding where the IN Technique energy is being held in your body. As soon as you feel the IN Technique energy field, shift to the IN Technique in the app and guide yourself through the resolution of the old residue of the pain that’s been suppressed.

The Short Versions of LOCATE

One other point, after you have used the LOCATE Technique the first time or the first few times (you decide) you’ll be getting the feel for how to do it. We have a short version of the LOCATE Technique that you can try out when you feel you are ready for that.

By the way, you can of course use the this App for resolving the pain of grief from the loss of animals or pets that you loved too.

You can also use our other free apps and recommend them to friends and family. There’s a list of them on the last page of this app.

Support

If you’d like some personalized support you can get 1-on-1 coaching by booking a session with a Certified Inner Greatness Coach using the online booking form at the bottom of this page.

We do have many highly trained Certified Inner Greatness Coaches who are available for 1-on-1 sessions to help you. They have been doing this work for many years and they are highly qualified to help via Skype or similar.

Spread the Word

Please spread the word via your social media, email lists, any support groups or forums for people who suffer from grief. Help us to fulfill our mission of removing the pain of the world. Let’s create a world in which people get over grieving in a few hours at most rather than it taking years!

It’s not uncommon that people want some 1-on-1 support from a live Certified Inner Greatness Coach. If you’d like to book a session with an Inner Greatness Coach use our online booking system at Sessions.

May you fully resolve your grief and fully enjoy the rest of your life!

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